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Welcome to the Leading East Coast Dating and Social Life Mastery Community

March 7, 2010 By

We are the largest and most active Dating & Men’s self development forum in the Washington, DC and Baltimore metropolitan area and one of the largest in the world with over 1,600 members. We are dedicated to improving the lives of persons who are looking to enhance their dating lives and master their social skills. We have recently expanded to include a rapidly growing community in Miami, FL as well.

Many of our members found us after reading books like “The Game” by Neil Strauss, a story of a writer who became a rising star and “pickup artist.” The Game documents Neil Strauss’ experience in the seductive and mysterious world of the pickup artist (“PUA”) community. Other members searched for a local “lair” or “forum” where they could find wingmen to go out with and improve their dating and social lives and found us.   However, the Attraction Vault is about more than just “picking up” women.  The Attraction Vault is a community established to help individuals grow as people.

Who We Are

We are an all volunteer group of primarily men, and some helpful, supportive women mostly in Washington, DC, Baltimore and Miami metropolitan areas who work together to help one another improve our dating and social lives. Members of the Attraction Vault range from working professionals with extensive experience in dating, to young men with little experience in dating and socializing with women. Members also include divorced men in their 30s and 40s that just want to get back into the dating game and single men who are already happy with their dating life, but are seeking constant improvement in their relationships.

What We Do

Members provide advice and support to each other through a private online discussion forum. The forum posts focus on topics that help individuals develop the dating and social skills required to initiate, enhance and manage relationships. We also facilitate events where men meet in person and collaborate to socialize and meet other wingmen and wingwomen,  go out during the day and get involved in events where they can initiate conversations and establish relationships with women, and/or go out and enjoy the socialthe nightlife in Washington, DC and Miami.

We also host educational events in Washington, DC,  Baltimore and Miami. We host these events through coordinating with local Dating Coaches and Nationally known Speakers.  Our list of speakers has included Brad P, DJ Fuji, Nick Quick, Vince Kelvin, Psych, Adam Lyons, Badboy, James Marshall, Speer, QuickKill, Brother James, Cuisine and many more. In addition, we have a forum where members review pickup artist products and dating services.

Join Us!

Wherever you are at in your life with women, there is a place for you here. Sign up for free to join the Attraction Vault and participate in our daily discussions and forums.

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SPEER’S EDGE: BEGINING 12 DO’S & DONT’S

February 2, 2012 By Leave a Comment

1. Don’t be too obsessive. If the girl doesn’t call, they might have been too busy to answer. Leaving 5 voice mails just makes you appear desperate.

2. Don’t move too quickly. It could cause a pipi le pew situation (you persue and the other runs away as fast as they can).

3. Don’t talk too much about your ex’s. And if you do, don’t say anything disparaging. Treat it as a new relationship so empty your luggage at the door.

4. Be courteous. Please and thank you go a long way.

5. Be flexible. If you have to cancel, reschedule unless you really didn’t want to go out with the girl to begin with.

6. Guys, I hate to say it, but bring cash and/or plastic to the date. If the woman wants to go dutch great, but expect to pay on the first date atleast.

7. Do open her doors. Hold out your hand if you have a really big car/truck and if she has a skirt and heels, etc. Little things go a long way.

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SPEER’S EDGE: PATH MINDSET

January 19, 2012 By Leave a Comment

I decided to share my “Path Mindset”. The “Path Mindset” is partially based on Abraham Maslow’s (1954) theory on Self-Actualization. Maslow studies were conducted about the most successful people in the world from past to present and his theory is still widely used by many successful people today. Here is my adaptation aptly named “Path Mindset”:

1. BE WILLING TO CHANGE – Begin with asking yourself “Am I living in a way that is deeply satisfying to me and which truly expresses me?” If not, be prepared to make changes in your life to match your identity. Ask yourself this question often and accept the need for continual change because as we progress through life we grow and change naturally. It is up to you the direction you wish to head.

2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY – You can become an architect of yourself by acting as if you are personally responsible for every aspect of your life. Shouldering responsibility in this way helps end the habit of blaming others for your own shortcomings. This is not an easy thing to do but it will help you be more fulfilled for your successes.

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Matters in Dating- Brother James

January 16, 2012 By Leave a Comment

A note from Mind Team Leader, Lauree Ostrofsky: Our goal with DC Fit Week is to help you see your mental, physical and financial fitness as integral to all aspects of your life. How you approach dating and relationships is part of that.

Some of the advice I give in my seminars and personal coaching as a professional dating coach is quite simple.  I try to break it down to the basics.  Why know all of the fluff, when you need to understand the principals?

The funny thing is most people want the fluff.  They want the quick fix:  “What do I say?” “How to I approach someone?”

The fluff quickly floats away and you are back to square one.  Do the hard stuff.

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The Attraction Vault Presents: The Global Pickup Conference DC 2012

January 5, 2012 By Leave a Comment

“Are You Ready To Learn The Secrets
Of The Most Powerful Dating & Pick-Up
Instructors In The World?”

I’m CrazyMike and have recently been talking with Speer from SpeerMethod.com, and we are bringing last years incredible Global Pickup Conference back to DC for the second year. If you are ready to “raise the bar” with women in your life, then you are invited to attend the…

The Global Pickup Conference, Washington DC
During The Weekend Of March 23rd – 25th, 2012

“Prepare for Affection from EVERY direction!”

If this sounds like hype, I apologize… but I am more than excited after seeing what awesome quaality events speer has brought in the past.  Consistently delivering high ammounts of value.

We have brought together a world-class faculty of “Adventure Advisors” to open your doors of abundance with sexual satisfaction and fulfillment with women. After 7 years, according to speer, the greatest lesson he’s learned is that…

The BEST Way To Become Better With Women is;
LEARN the TRUTH about ATTRACTION, THEN…
get OUT of the classroom, GO OUT, and LEARN BY DOING.

So, here’s what we’ve got for you:
We Bring You the BEST Guru’s from around the world!

GET YOUR TICKETS BEFORE THEY INCREASE IN COST, EVERY TWO WEEKS THE PRICE INCREASES!  DON’T MISS OUT ON AN INCREDIBLE EXPERIENCE, AT AN INCREDIBLE PRICE- GET YOUR TICKET EARLY!

RESERVE YOUR SPOT HERE

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Day Game – Sasha

November 24, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Hey Guys,

I am here right now with Sasha Day Game of www.sashadaygame.com who I just finished interviewing for tomorrows lair talk.  Check it out!

sashadaygame_talk

RSVP for Lair talk HERE

See you there!

-CrazyMike

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How to Create the Abundance Mindset

November 21, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Note: This is a guest post from Steve of Freedom Education.  An article that I believe has an excellent message.

Give away what you got.

It’s not that complicated, really.

But let’s think for a minute; what do a great number of people do instead?

When someone has a great idea, they hoard that idea.  They don’t give it away.  They shelter and protect it.  They keep it to themselves in fear that someone else might take it.  They think, “I better save that idea for later.”  They don’t share their ideas or give them away – they keep them.

Well, let’s think – why would you do that?

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Text Messaging: 5 powerful tips – Become That Guy

November 21, 2011 By Leave a Comment

The following article about text messages comes from an excerpt from my book Become
That Guy: Become Irresistibly Attractive and also covers principles that are demonstrates
in my field reports and in my seminar on text messaging.

Since it can often be hard to reach someone on the phone, and many now prefer text
messages they are a good way to keep you fresh in her mind so she is more likely to
answer a phone call. It is a good idea to call her phone or have her call your phone when
you first get her number so that she can record it into her phone. Another option is to
send a text right away, often giving her a cute knickname. “Hey glitter girl, I’ll catch you
later.”

Some more advantages of text messages are that they can be be a way to continue to
build upon the momentum you already have and arrange to meet up with her later that
first night if you are still out, especially since neither you nor her will be available to
talk since you are around other people and in loud bars that often have spotty cell phone
reception. Text messages allow her to respond discretely while talking to others and
when she has a moment while out at work, or even on a date with another guy.
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Become Addicted to Excellence

November 21, 2011 By Leave a Comment

How do we become excellent?

I’ve been doing some ponderin’ recently….
I was in the gym the other day, and I was just thinking about how good it feels to be seeing results. I noticed also how whenever I’m really pushing myself at the gym, it motivates me to push myself in other areas of my life. I could be feeling a bit lazy or unmotivated – I’ll go to the gym, and start working out. Once I get into it, I like pushing myself as hard as I can. It’s challenging and makes me feel good. What’s the point of being in the gym if I’m not going to give it my 100% ?

Suddenly, I find myself thinking about all the other things I want to do – all the areas I want to / could be pushing myself more in. I start thinking about game concepts and how they could be explained more effectively to my students. I get ideas about how to get closer to, and add value to the lives of the people I care about. I start thinking about what I could do to better my service and expand my business and my career. Sometimes, I even get ideas about some things I could try in bed!

I’ve also noticed, when I’m doing some really good coaching… and there’s a happy student in front of me beaming…. I think “fuck yeah. I rock. I’m good at this. I’m awesome. I’m going to going to push myself harder in the gym – I’m gonna be ripped!” [Read more...]

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Approach Anxiety Cure: How To Approach A Girl Without Fear of Rejection- Sasha

November 9, 2011 By Leave a Comment

This article is going to teach you how to approach a girl without fear of rejection or failure. Soon, you’ll have the tools you need to overcome Approach Anxiety forever. You’ll finally be ready to start attracting beautiful women into your life each and every day.

Unfortunately, when most guys get started attracting women, they discover that they first need to cure approach anxiety. They see a beautiful woman and instantly feel a crippling fear that feels nearly impossible to overcome.

For some, this fear becomes too much and their approach anxiety beats them for good. Others will challenge themselves and approach women after women for weeks or months on end, hoping that it will eliminate Approach Anxiety forever.

But as many of those guys will tell you, even after approaching 100s of girls THE APPROACH ANXIETY IS STILL THERE!

So if simply approaching tons of women isn’t enough to cure approach anxiety, what is?

After overcoming my own fear of approaching women, and helping hundreds of men across the globe do the same, I’ve been fortunate to discover what really works to overcome approach anxiety forever.

One of the biggest reasons most guys continue to get approach anxiety after making numerous approaches is that they only approach women at specific times.

Most guys who want to get good with women will go out at specified times and approach beautiful women. During those times they’ll try to pick up girls with varying degrees of success, but the rest of the time they’ll go about life as if women didn’t even exist!

As soon as their life gets busy, they feel like they don’t have time to approach and they take a break. Once they are ready to start approaching again, they’re devastated to learn that their approach anxiety is back!

There is a HUGE problem with that mindset!
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5 Ways To Turn Fear Into Fuel

October 3, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Uncertainty. It’s a terrifying word.

Living with it, dangling over your head like the sword of Damocles, day in day out, is enough to send anyone spiraling into a state of anxiety, fear and paralysis.

Like it or not, though, uncertainty is the new normal. We live in a time where the world is in a state of constant, long-term flux. And, that’s not all. If you want to spend your time on the planet not just getting-by, but consistently creating art, experiences, businesses and lives that truly matter, you’ll need to proactively seek out, invite and even deliberately amplify uncertainty. Because the other side of uncertainty is opportunity.

Nothing great was ever created by waiting around for someone to tell you it’s all going to be okay or for perfect information to drop from the sky. Doesn’t happen that way. Great work requires you to act in the face of uncertainty, to live in the question long enough for your true potential to emerge. There is no alternative.
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